Becoming an Unintentional Attachment Parent | Guest Post
(This is a guest post by We’re Parents?!?! Larisha. The views contained within this post are her own.)
So many times you hear parents say, “If you would have told me, I’d be doing X, Y, Z five years ago, I would laugh at you.” Well, if you would have told me three years ago, that I was going to be by all definition, an attachment parent, I would laugh at you. Now, don’t get me wrong, I know I would do some aspects of attachment parenting, such as breastfeeding, but that’s pretty much where it ended. In fact, even when I found out I was pregnant, I was only committed to breastfeeding for the first six weeks. I knew I wanted to get to that point, but other than that, there was no attachment anything.
The crazy thing is, to me, in the beginning of my pregnancy, I did what most “mainstream” parents do. I read “What to Expect When Expecting”, I asked friends and family for advice, I set up a crib (that has never been used), I even saved the formula samples from the overly pushy mailings “just in case”.
So what happened?
Luckily, I was posting a question about looking for some local moms activities once I had our daughter, and someone asked if I wanted to be added to some local groups. I said sure. These groups were about babywearing, cloth diapering, and breastfeeding. One group, in particular, was extremely eye opening to me. They talked about co-sleeping, extended rear facing car seats, breastfeeding beyond a year, not sleep training your children, and even not vaccinating. It was this group that made me, and subsequently Andrew, really consider the type of parents that we wanted to be. I’m convinced if it wasn’t for this one mom reaching out and helping me, that we would be in a very different situation than we are today.
What Unintentional Attachment Parent Means to Us
Attachment parenting looks different for every family, but for us it means that we exclusively breastfed for 6 months before offering solid food and afterwards did baby-led weaning, while continuing to breastfeed, now almost at the two year mark. We also bedshare, never did Cry It Out (sleep training), babywear, cloth diaper, and practice gentle parenting when it comes to discipline, and extended rear face our car seat. We joke that she will be rear facing for prom.
I’ve learned one thing from all of this– Continue to help first-time and new moms by providing them with resources that help them make the right decisions for their families. It takes a village to raise a family right? I constantly post about our experiences and so many times people have thanked me for doing so and opening their eyes to a different type of parenting. A type of parenting, that works for our family, and I’m so luckily to have found.
Bio: Larisha is founder and content writer at We’re Parents!? (www.wereparentsblog.com), natural parenting blog focusing on topics such as breastfeeding, cloth diapering, babywearing, baby led weaning, bedsharing, and having a healthier and better eating lifestyle. Additionally, there’s lots of yummy recipes, travel recommendations and of course products reviews and giveaways! When not blogging, she enjoys learning more about photography and being in the kitchen whipping up new recipes. She’s a hot chocolate and Amish doughnut enthusiast who lives in New Jersey with her fiance and their daughter. Follow her at @wereparents
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